Struggling to Find Your Purpose and Passion? Try These 9 Steps
Have you ever felt like life is moving every day, but you are the same old, stuck? Feeling lost, struggling, searching for meaning, and wondering what the meaning of my life is? Then this blog is your sign to create meaningful life goals for yourself and find your purpose and passion in 9 simple steps.
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There are nearly 8 billion people on this planet, but what makes you truly unique?
It’s your purpose and passion.
The way you choose to see and live your life.
Then why should you settle for someone else’s definition of life?
This blog is about Ruhi’s journey where she finds her purpose and passion and discovers the true meaning of her life.
Let’s dive in to know how Ruhi discovers her purpose and passion.
Meet Ruhi, a 22-year-old who feels stuck in life.
Most days, she wakes up wondering, “What am I doing with my life?”, “Is there any meaning to my life?”.
She isn’t aware of her answers, but she is aware that she is not happy with her current life.
She wants something that helps her truly and connects deeper. A meaningful and fulfilling life. That feels her.
Does this sound familiar?
If it does, you’re not alone.
Many of us face this at some point in life.
Have you ever stepped back to figure this out?
Let’s be honest, most of us don’t know what our purpose and passion.
Understanding Purpose and Passion–
Purpose – This is your “what”—the reason behind your actions. What do you want to do with your life? What impact do you want to make?
Passion – This is your “why”—the strong love or excitement you feel for something. Why do you feel drawn to this path? Why does it excite you?
When you understand your what (purpose) and why (passion), life feels more meaningful. You stop feeling lost and start making decisions with confidence.
According to research, doing what you love (passion) is great, but adding a sense of purpose (meaning) makes it even more powerful and fulfilling.
Take Ruhi, for example.
She never gave much thought to her purpose and passion in life. She lived on autopilot. Going through school, getting a degree, and following the same path as everyone else.
When she noticed people around her confidently discussing their goals and dreams, she realized how unfamiliar she was with her own life.
She had no idea what truly excited her.
She wondered, “Why don’t I have a dream like them?”
Have you ever felt like Ruhi?
If yes, you’re not alone.
It’s never too late to figure it out. So why not start now?
Ruhi’s Journey – From Confusion to Clarity-
Ruhi is a college student who chooses the academic path that her friends choose despite feeling no connection to it.
Now, she started regretting her choices.
She wonders what is something that excites me?
What are my beliefs and values.
Who Am I?
Why am I on this earth?
Being filled with so many other responsibilities, she feels there’s not enough time to figure out what she truly enjoys.
The fear of failure, the uncertainty about the future.
These thoughts are constantly pushing her away from the life she desires.
But, Ruhi knows she can’t ignore her true calling forever.
Let’s see how Ruhi made up her mind and started focusing on discovering her purpose and passion.
How Ruhi Transformed Her Life–
The mindset wasn’t shifted overnight.
This is a whole new journey with lots of experiments and realizations.
In the beginning, she was overwhelmed with the pressure of “figuring it all out in one go”.
Self-discovery, self-love, self-acceptance—these concepts were new to her.
This is when she realized that she could start by setting small and intentional goals.
That will help her to work towards a dream life without being stressed.
She realized the only way she could work on her life was by being consistent.
“It isn’t about perfection; it is about building a routine.”
She started journaling her thoughts every day, which helped a lot in finding her purpose and passion.
She knew she was chasing someone else’s dreams, someone else’s definition of success, and not her own.
So, she started asking herself the right questions to finally uncover her true purpose and passion.
15 Powerful Questions to Discover Your Life Purpose-
- What’s one thing that always made you happy as a child?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What are you naturally curious about, even if no one’s watching?
- What would you say to your 12-year-old self?
- Whose pain do you feel deeply, and wish you could ease?
- What do people often come to you for?
- If you could give one message to the world, what would it be?
- When was the last time you felt truly proud of yourself, and why?
- If money didn’t matter, how would you spend your days?
- What makes you angry or emotional about the world?
- What’s one skill or topic you could learn/talk about forever?
- If someone gave you a mic and said “Speak your truth,” what would you say?
- What’s a moment in your life where you felt aligned, alive, and at peace?
- If your 80-year-old self looked back, what would she regret not doing?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but never gave yourself permission to?
Ruhi took the time to reflect deeply on these questions.
The more she answered, the clearer things became.
She stopped worrying about what society expected from her.
She realized that discovering purpose and passion isn’t about having all the answers right away; it’s about exploring, experimenting, and learning.
And that’s when she started figuring out her path.
Ruhi discovered 9 simple steps that helped her uncover her true purpose and passion.
Ready to take the first step toward a more fulfilling life?
How Do Purpose and Passion Impact Your Life?
When you’re passionate, you naturally attract people and opportunities that align with you.
Living with purpose and passion allows you to make a positive impact on yourself and the world.
This gives you a reason to wake up out of your bed every day.
Together, they give you a sense of fulfillment and a reason to cherish each day with joy without the fear of tomorrow. Having purpose and passion in life helps you to focus on your now instead of dwelling on the past or stressing about the future.
Purpose and passion go hand in hand to create a meaningful life.
9 Simple Steps to Find Your Purpose and Passion in Life.
1. Consistency
“Habits shape who you are.”
Your purpose and passion may vary as you grow. It doesn’t have to be same all the time. Hence, you have to keep evolving and work on yourself consistently.
How this helped –
- Ruhi discovered that staying consistent is key, even during tough or demotivating times. She realized this was key to exploring her purpose & passion.
- While taking short breaks was okay, she made sure it didn’t affect her journey.
- The clarity about her feelings helped her recognize what felt right.
- She broke down large goals into small, actionable steps. This deepened her understanding of what truly mattered to her.
2. Authenticity
“Live in alignment with your values.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi understood that she didn’t have to follow anyone else’s definition of life. She can create it for her as per her interests.
- She came out of her comfort zone and started facing the hard questions of her life that she never spoke about.
- Authenticity allowed her to focus on the things that truly mattered. Rather than following what others expected of her.
She gave herself the permission to be true to herself and hear her inner voice. She slowly started exploring and identifying what she truly values.
3. Reflection
“Your journal is a mirror to your soul.”
How this helped –
- Journaling became a game-changer for Ruhi.
- This helped her to reflect on her experiences and emotions.
- She was able to identify the activities and moments that made her feel fulfilled.
- This reflection helped her understand her true purpose and passion. This allowed her to explore what made her happier.
Spend time with yourself, be true to yourself, you’ll figure out yourself- your choices, beliefs, values, strengths, weaknesses, etc.
4. Positivity
“Speak kindly to yourself.”
How this helped –
- Changed her mindset from self-doubt to self-encouragement.
- She wasn’t afraid of her failures or mistakes.
- She started practicing affirmations and positive self-talk, which gave her the confidence to pursue her dreams.
- She wasn’t afraid of judgments or stopped seeking external validations.
- This shift allowed her to approach challenges with a more optimistic mindset.
Start spending time with people who discuss goals, life, and god, not with those who discuss people.
Spend time in nature. Use good words- Affirmations. Reframe your thoughts and beliefs- “Be the person you want to be”.
5. Acceptance
“Stop living by others’ expectations.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi stopped letting societal pressures take over her choices.
- She started focusing on what truly excited her rather than what was expected from her.
- This helped her gain the freedom to explore her true choices.
- She realized that living authentically was more important than fitting into a box created by others.
We are all humans, you might have made wrong choices, you might have done bad to others, accept it, and forgive yourself. How long will you carry that past baggage?
Healing is the first step to a meaningful life.
6. Self-Compassion
“Be gentle with yourself.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi realized that being hard on herself wasn’t going to help her grow.
- By practicing self-compassion, she embraced her mistakes as valuable lessons.
- This mindset helped her learn and evolve.
- This crafted a lasting impact on her life in the process.
Remember, you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Trust me, no one cares unless and until it’s about them. Hence, live your life on your terms.
7. Kindness
“Kindness begins with you.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi found inspiration in the people she admired.
- Their kindness and authenticity made her realize the importance of showing kindness to herself and others.
- This opened new possibilities for her.
- Being kind to herself enabled her to take on challenges with a positive attitude.
- This helped her pursue her passions and align with her purpose with greater enthusiasm.
You might not know the story behind a smiling face, calm down. You don’t have to be always ready to wage a war. Be gentle with yourself and others. Sometimes it’s good not to over-explain and change everything.
8. Patience
“Purpose doesn’t appear overnight.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi learned that self-discovery takes time.
- She stopped rushing the process and allowed herself space to explore.
- Patience helped her develop a deeper understanding of her true purpose.
- She is happy with a narrow version of success, but she craves a fulfilling life.
Having purpose and passion doesn’t only fills your life with meaning but also gives you a sense of security and support. Because it’s not about short term pleasure its a long term happiness.
9. Exploration
“Step outside your comfort zone.”
How this helped –
- Ruhi embraced new experiences, whether it was taking a class, traveling, or exploring hobbies she had put aside.
- She stepped out of her comfort zone.
- She discovered new passions and talents that helped her align her actions with her true purpose.
- Exploring these interests led her to a breakthrough that connected her with what she truly loved.
Expose yourself to change. Stop being stagnant, upskill yourself every day, practice, or do different things to find out what you truly love.
By taking these 9 steps, Ruhi discovered her true purpose & passion.
Each step is allowing her to reconnect with herself, overcome obstacles, and embrace her path with confidence.
Her journey helped her find her true purpose & passion, helping her build a life that was uniquely hers.
She discovered her Ikigai in Writing. An 8-year-old who was fond of writing and reading forgot her dreams due to external noise, but at the age of 23, she is living that dream.
It’s not about having it all figured out. It’s not about when you find your purpose and passion. It’s about YOU.
Remember, even if someone takes away all your stuff, your freedom, or puts you in a tough situation…
There’s still one thing they can’t take:
Your choice to decide how you feel and how you act.
You always get to choose if you’ll stay kind, strong, hopeful, even when things are hard.
And when you know why you’re here, or what matters to you in life,
You can get through anything.
If you care about helping others or making your family proud, or having a meaningful life, that can help you stay strong, even when life gets messy.
Conclusion
Having purpose and passion makes your challenges easier.
This drives you towards something greater than just personal gain; it’s about contributing to something that resonates deeply with your core beliefs.
Finding your purpose and passion is about self-discovery, exploration, and embracing your journey.
Imagine a life where you wake up every day with a sense of excitement and direction.
You’re no longer weighed down by doubt or fear but are instead motivated to pursue what truly matters to you.
Purpose gives life meaning, making even boring tasks feel worth doing.
Remember, you’re not behind, and you’re not alone.
Everyone’s journey is unique, and your purpose is waiting for you.
Trust the process, stay curious, and never stop exploring.
Feeling inspired? Start your journey today!
Reflect on your values, try something new, and take the first step toward a life filled with purpose & passion that drives you toward your end goal.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Why is it so hard to find your purpose in life?
Finding your purpose in life feels hard because we expect clear answers fast. But purpose isn’t something you wake up and suddenly know, it takes time, trying new things, and learning about yourself. We often follow what others expect from us, not what truly feels right. That’s why it feels confusing. Start by asking what makes you feel alive, useful, or excited. Your purpose grows with you, so give it time.
Why am I struggling to find my passion?
Because life gets noisy. With so many distractions, expectations, and to-do lists, we forget to check in with ourselves.
Here’s what might be happening:
1. You’re too busy surviving to pause and reflect
2. You’re ignoring what feels good because it doesn’t seem “practical.”
3. You’re overthinking instead of experimenting
4. You think passion = career, but it doesn’t have to be
Start small. Explore what excites you, even if it feels silly. Passion often hides in the quiet things you keep coming back to.
Can passion and purpose change over time?
Yes, 100%. What excites you today may not fulfill you 5 years later, and that’s okay. Life seasons shift, and so will your passions. Your purpose also evolves as you grow, learn, and experience life. Don’t try to lock it in forever, stay open.
